Appreciation of my country, the U.S.A.

If you can look past the dirogitory comments in this article, the user poorindgrad reminds us all of the meaning to live here in the USA. With this being a new year, I’m going to try to remember his comments and appreciate my country.

His comments specifically:

(1) A young person can study whatever he wants to study and make a good life for himself. This is the single most important feature here. Sooner or later politicians will spoil this I am afraid but hold on to it and the society will have hopeful, cheerful and positive youngsters.

(2) I find America to be very open to new people, new food, new clothes….whatever. It is very amazing and nice. I did not even know so many different kinds of foods existed in this world until I came here. Maybe it is because people here can afford various things. Whatever the reasons maybe, the adventurous nature is very commendable.

(3) I feel like politicians pay a heavy price for their transgressions. I have seen evidence for it. In India there are confirmed thugs in power. Murderers, thieves, and scoundrels seem to be unable to get political power here after their action are known. That is a good thing.

(4) There is a general politeness. I haven’t seen anyone ill-treat me for being brown.

(5) I think the country is business friendly and that is good. In India, by the time you start a business, you have already bribed a dozen people….and then every dealing with the government is a nightmare. Things are getting better….but here things are much more streamlined.

(6) There is heated debate about a lot of things here. It is a good thing. It is ok to call a politician a donkey or a monkey and all is cool. If you do that in India, you’ll be in some kind of trouble for sure. Being able to keep politicians on a leash (to the extent possible) is a good thing and I see that here.

more in the AMA as the question come up…

via I am an Indian computer professional working in USA. I find USA to be an amazing country where a person can realize his full potential. I know that it sounds like a fairytale but that is how I see it. AMAA (Ask Me Absolutely Anything). India, Religion, Culture whatever… : IAmA.

Slow, free range, idle parents can increase IQ and happiness – blogs – *faircompanies

In my Silicon Valley hometown, there seemed to be only one speed for raising children: fast forward to college. Here kids are prepped for “success” (i.e. the right colleges) as soon as they can toddle to a sport or art class, if not before with nannies to assure their bilingualism. In my public high school, I saw only honors and AP (advanced placement) kids outside of classes like art and typing; we practiced our college entrance exams in English class; and 27 of us went to Stanford, and nearly an equal number went to Ivy Leagues (I don’t think I knew anyone who didn’t go to college at all).

Suggest an idea like Slow Parenting to some of the parents of my former classmates and you might be met with the question, “And where does that fit on his application?”. Before I explain how a less-hurried parenting style might actually help raise your child’s IQ score, let me explain how so many of us became hothouse parents in the first place. After all, Silicon Valley isn’t the only place in the country where parents start their kids with Mandarin lessons as 6 months.

The rise of fast parenting

In the past century, all aspects of our life- work, food, sex, sports, relationships- have sped up and parenting is no exception. Carl Honoré, chronicler of the Slow Movement, argues that we have become hurried caregivers because of a convergence of issues:

  • Globalization means more competition and a perceived increase in workplace uncertainty for our offspring.
  • Consumer culture has led to higher expectations for “perfect teeth, perfect hair, a perfect body, perfect vacations, a perfect home – and perfect children to round off the portrait”.
  • Smaller families means more time and money to spend on each child.
  • Older parents have had more time in the workplace before having kids and therefore, they tend to professionalize parenting.

With all these pressures, it’s no wonder we’ve come to treat childrearing- to quote Honoré- as a cross between “a competitive sport and product-development”. Honoré- author of the bestseller “The Power of Slow: Finding Balance and Fulfillment Beyond the Cult of Speed,” and more recently, “Under Pressure: Rescuing Our Children from the Culture of Hyper-Parenting,”- argues that Slow parenting is not so much about speed- or lack thereof-, but about balance.

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